Getting hate for glamour

[Wilan]

Hi, nice to meet you everyone. Yunao, I remember you, I happened to be in that instance as things went down.

And honestly what went down was somewhat bizarre. Somebody in that party, bored by the grind I assume, started some banter and made a comment about "hey you forgot to put some clothes on" or something. Some of us kept replied in tone, and I remember saying specifically "eh, it's summer, let the healer dress how they want". And all of a sudden you wrote, in full caps, "THEN KICK ME OUT" or something. And after we said "what are you saying, of course we're not gonna kick you for that" you logged out in the middle of the fight.
Which pretty much sucked, but whatever we managed to win anyway and we went on our ways.

...and then I open the forums and find this lol. Sorry if anybody had an unfair behaviour in that party it was you. Whatever was said was said without malice, while you left mid-fight bringing half of the heals and a limit break bar with you.

EDIT: I realize I wrote this without a shed of proof. I asked to a friend who was farming with me, they happened to still have the log from earlier. You can be the judge I guess. And although I'll agree that not anyone might like it or find it funny, this is far from the relentless harrassment evoked by OP that would motivate somebody to quit a game. Nor to open a witch-hunt thread on the forums to publicly denounce what happened. :|

[Jybril]

There's always two sides to the story and with what
Wilian said, I figured that was the case as said earlier in my 2nd post.
The op just needs a thicker skin tbh.

[Ageofwar]

Funny... I feel like I've seen an outfit like this before...

Ohhh yeah, that's right.

ooo pretty close and no that is not where i got the idea from. I actually just don't like the Everstar top on races with tails, it just looks too painful

[EdwinLi]

autism.

It is a rather serious condition though because serious Autism may lead to people literally murdering other people for small reason by completely over exaggerating what really is happening. Of course in their minds they think they did the right thing but in reality their ability to handle things rationally is more difficult than certain people would normally handle things easily brush off.

[Serilda]

Ah, yet another case of communication gone wrong and everyone on both sides ending up hurt. Banter with strangers is always a risky proposition, but Wilan's group obviously had no idea they were treading on such a big landmine with the OP feeling low already.

At least this clarifies that glamour definitely should not be deleted (obviously).

(Disclaimer: I am not trying to be a psychiatrist in any way, shape or form. I am merely offering the opportunity to talk, human to human, in case it helps. Not everyone has ready access to a friend.)

[EdwinLi]

Oh ho, as someone with autism myself, I'd know. And yes, you're right. We have completely different ways of thinking. Our brains are wired differently. Because of the already established societal norms, our actions are seen as extreme. But, in actuality, it is indeed a difference in thinking. I'm on the high functioning end though, so don't go to those extremes.

Sorry if I offended you. It was just a example if something goes completely horribly wrong.

[micropanther7]

Yeah PaladinLeeds I know this myself because I have a cousin with asperger's syndrome, two relatives with autism, as well as family members with mental health issues (you know now why I got teasy in this thread lol), they all love gaming, and also awareness of their social interactions with others online, how to prevent situations like this from arising... why the idea for your guild is such a good idea. I think with the right support you can learn to deal with all sorts of people, and just brush it off... like somebody said few pages back, proper professional support as well as a good support group really goes a long way, that's priority, can't go into much personal detail on the forums but the young lads I know are doing great for themselves

[Galgarion]

It is a rather serious condition though because serious Autism may lead to people literally murdering other people for small reason by completely over exaggerating what really is happening. Of course in their minds they think they did the right thing but in reality their ability to handle things rationally is more difficult than certain people would normally handle things easily brush off.

What? Dude. People with autism are not likely to become murderers. They don't understand social queues and sarcasm, and they don't like being touched. On what planet does someone like that go, "NOW I KEEL U!!!"

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If you're thinking of guys like Eliot Rodger (the nut who shot up a sorority house because he couldn't get a date), please don't associate someone like him with people who have autism or Aspergers. People on the spectrum have issues understanding emotions as other people express them. They simply process the information differently. That's waaaaaay different from suffering from something as extreme as malignant narcissism or antisocial personality disorder where you view other people as objects. There's a big difference between Rain Man and Deadpool!

[Paladinleeds]

What? Dude. People with autism are not likely to become murderers. They don't understand social queues and sarcasm, and they don't like being touched. On what planet does someone like that go, "NOW I KEEL U!!!"

Was it the extremist of extreme examples? Yes. But, with that being said, the point they're trying to make that our brains are wired differently and we perceive and react to situations differently, and often with a black and white thinking approach, remains valid. Notice as well that they're focusing on serious autism (or as we refer to it as, low functioning autism). Now, I only have experience with the high functioning side of autism, but it can go to that, as we struggle with managing the stresses approached in society. And we handle them differently.

[SpiritTamer]

It is a rather serious condition though because serious Autism may lead to people literally murdering other people for small reason by completely over exaggerating what really is happening. Of course in their minds they think they did the right thing but in reality their ability to handle things rationally is more difficult than certain people would normally handle things easily brush off.

This is the first I heard of that. I am not a violent person at all. I may yell, but never hurt someone. I usually want to be left alone when I have a meltdown, but my boyfriend can quickly calm me down.