"Pull Everything" in Dungeon Parties

[Paladinleeds]

Theres a reason why I main healer and play WHM in dungeons...because I have the best tools to influence/control most of it: I can make the big pulls work, even if the tank isnt so decent and I can add a significant amount of dmg to speed up the run.

That's the thing, if I'm tanking, and you feel confident we can do more, please just ask. There's only one situation in which I'll say no really, and that's if I'm new to the dungeon (which I will mention anyway, I just tend to be extra cautious if I'm new because I don't want things to go wrong and therefore I take a "Better safe than sorry" approach). I'm generally a steady tank, but am almost always OK with going for more if people ask. Communication will go a long way with me. I'll work with the group's wishes most of the time, but I'm no mind reader, so you need to tell me!

Why does 1 person get to decide the flow of the dungeon? If everyone else wants to pull large, why not oblige them?

The group might want it but not have the capability to do it. As a tank, part of your job is gauging the limits of the group with regards to pulls. If they're asking for more than they can handle and insist on it and you wipe, you could still get blamed for it. It does happen. So you have to know the group's limits.