Lol@all the replies.

A tank does not get to decide the pace.
Y'all better get over yourselves.
If the party wants big pulls and the tank doesn't
Cooperate, it might end up bad for him.
Likewise...i can be the tank and pull all I want but if I'm with two lazy afk auto atk dps and a netflix healer, we can't make it work.
So no...the tank does NOT get to decide everything.
The party does.

To all the other people who always assume
the best in people and suggest to give advice:
They don't want help in like 95% of cases. So there's
No reaction or response at all. Or they're self entitled players who just flat out refuse everything. I know how you're all thinking omg she's so toxic. I don't care what you think. I'm not gonna try and convince you otherwise. Many of you are exactly the type of players id like to avoid because it's cos of reluctant "It doesn't matter as long as we clear" people like you that you see part of the player base turn "toxic" as you like to call it