I would prefer to set my faeries reactions when on sic. I always stick to obey at the moment but if I could just set a few things up to happen automatically without reliance on macros would be fantastic. Examples I'd use are:

If tank HP <100% -cast embrace (this would be on lowest priority)
If status = rouse -cast whispering dawn (I almost exclusively pair these abilities, but sometimes it might not suit)
If >3 party members have status infliction -cast fey caress
If at least 1 party member status = doom (for example) -cast fey caress
If enemy status = chain stratagem (or other debuff from a party member) -cast fey wind
If party member status = embolden (or other party buff like battle litany) -cast fey wind
If target of tank is casting a spell -cast silent dawn. (still not sure it would happen fast enough)