As you're on Cactuar, could I recommend joining the Cactuar Discord at https://discord.gg/wz6bymE (Discord is like Ventrilo/TeamSpeak btw, but it also has a strong text chat portion, I'm on the Louisoix one myself, but there's a more general FFXIV Discord which has a directory for all servers with individual Discords). This may help you find some like minded players on your server.

That being said, times have indeed moved on. Gone are the days of where everyone sat in voice chat, scheming together. However, one thing that my old FC back on Odin was managed to set a spark going in which people would join the voice chat and chat away. We'd also do dungeons together, etc, and then spend time just laughing and joking together. Not everyone could speak (for their own reasons), but it worked nonetheless. Mayhap this could be achieved just the same?