Tips for FC/Friends

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My guild is raid centric and we've been together for 7~ years. We moved from SWTOR to FFXIV for ARR launch(though we didn't fully commit to FFXIV for awhile). Of course there's been shifts in power during the years but we've had the same core going on 4 years now.

or being called a bad player if I make a mistake and being told to quit and get off.

That aside, you sound like me many years ago. I tried to join friend groups and sometimes I was semi-successful... but then someone would upset me and I'd leave and be alone again. So I bettered myself as a player and toughened up. Grew a thick skin and stayed in a group through the good and the bad -- and here I am. Whenever I log on I usually get instantly invited to things, or people fight over my attention. I actually covet the free time I have where people aren't trying to grab my attention.

So I guess my advice is to keep trying. Work through your anxiety, try to understand why people lash out sometimes and slowly build bonds with people regardless of their flaws and your flaws. Find a guild where you don't have to meet x requirements(that you don't like). I have no doubt you'll be successful, it just might take some time.

As for finding a guild... look in PF or put up a PF for exactly what you're looking for. You can also look for LS' because they can be just as good as FCs.

EDIT: I think people might advertise their FCs on these forums too? Might be worth looking into.