Getting abuse for DPS as a fairly new player - normal?

[sagacious]

Well I've only been playing a few months, having just managed to get through the MSQ before SB arrived, and now just managed that.

Before SB changes I'd just got the hang of my rotation on BLM, so SB changes are giving me a few issues at the moment with having to try and relearn it.

Just did Kugane Castle and got a load of abuse from the tank telling me my DPS is dreadful and I need to learn to play my class. He apparently was using some sort of parse to know what everyones dps was.

Is this normal for new players to experience? To get a load of crap from people who've been playing a long time? I don't mind constructive tips to improve as I know I'm new to the game, but outright targetted abuse just makes me question investing any time into the character.

If this is the 'norm' then the ingame community is just as bad as WoW's and that was like a cesspool.

Happened to me when I first started playing and reporting people would be a mistake like rating people out ain't kool. I just googled my rotation, found a dummy and banged away till I could see a rotation forming. I went to the market board and purchased the best gear for my level and weapon. Did some fates all day practicing my craft and then went back to that dungeon and received all three commendations and from then on I was sold on this game.

[Broken_Wind]

I'll bring up a time when an old FC buddy of mine hit level 70 back during ShB, and needed to run Ala Mhigo. He's a WAR main, and I went ahead and tagged along as a DPS I was leveling. I never grouped with him before, and his tanking was bad. Like really, really bad. The healer in our group was super pissed, and it was tough to defend my FC buddy because what the healer was saying was all true. I tried to defuse the situation by just giving some tips, and big pulls were definitely out of the question. We did make it through, and man the Zenos fight was also rough.

Afterwards, he was really down in spirits. His tanking at that level shouldn't have been that bad, and it was easy for me to recognize the obvious. He had little experience, and everyone he has grouped with just dealt with his tanking.

I brought this up first and foremost to let you know that a player does not need to use ACT to know your damage is lackluster. You play the game enough, and you just know when things are taking too long to kill. You can tell when content is under tuned, or if enrage windows are tight. The second reason is to let you know that my FC buddy pushed passed the criticism from the healer, as tough as it was, and used it as motivation to improve his game. The next time I grouped with him his tanking was vastly improved.

I can't judge the tank who told you your DPS was bad. I wasn't there, and he/she likely has their side of this story as well. Players can be harsh sometimes, and that player might not be a jerk, and could just be having a bad day and is normally much more tolerable. We just don't know. It's the internet. What I can tell you is to not get discouraged. You've picked one of the hardest jobs to play well with BLM. This is a good thing though, because it gives you such a vast plane in which TO improve. You will face bosses who will just make you say, "F...M....L" Again, use this as incentive to get better.

Also, there is no need to run the content that is the level of your BLM. Take no shame in running lower level content to hone your skillset and spell casting. If a fight gives you trouble, stay on it until you are satisfied with your performance. Patience. Practice. Persevere.

The key is to be able to differentiate between reasonable expectations and unreasonable ones

Looking up your class rotation on the balance and practicing it on a dummy before joining a DUNGEON is absolutely unreasonable.
Expecting you to pay attention to positionals, perform combos in their order, try to manage your DoTs/Buffs, understand your traits, try to avoid the bad, use OGCDs actually off the GCD, use AoEs, and be receptive to feedback is all reasonable. If the player is making an effort to do all that they will be doing more than enough DPS then is needed for a dungeon anyway.

[YukiB]

The key is to be able to differentiate between reasonable expectations and unreasonable ones

Looking up your class rotation on the balance and practicing it on a dummy before joining a DUNGEON is absolutely unreasonable.
Expecting you to pay attention to positionals, perform combos in their order, try to manage your DoTs/Buffs, understand your traits, try to avoid the bad, use OGCDs actually off the GCD, use AoEs, and be receptive to feedback is all reasonable. If the player is making an effort to do all that they will be doing more than enough DPS then is needed for a dungeon anyway.

It's never unreasonable to want to know how to play a job. It's just not reasonable to assume everyone does.

[Shibi]

He's long gone.

[Hysorn]

He's long gone.

Lmao, what's up with this necro, just noticed.