People are charging for runs? Damn I coulda been a millionaire by now... But really insta queues are quite a privilege for those with the self restraint to hold back on levelling the shiny new dps yet. If people want to pay then they'll pay to beat all other dps in queues.
That said, I just df everything to keep the df moving and the person waiting longest gets in. Or if I'm feeling generous I'll grab someone outside the dungeon. All the tanks I know on Odin haven't charged nor have I seem mention of it in shout chat. I think you guys are unlucky with your local community if they're kicking people without a bonus