Area 51 may be what you're looking for, in terms of raiding, you have the same mentality as me, clear hard content at a comfortable pace while having fun, that's what it's all about after all.
we're small, but growing, (obviously new server, still working on the numbers) but if we all chip in helping out getting the word out, we should be able to get it all going pretty quickly

let me know when you're online, I'll be on most of the day and evening.