If what you really want is relief from the disconnects today, wait a week.

They're going to continue until the mass of "early access" folks gets through the 50-60 grind for Samurai and Red Mage, and the 60-70 grind -- about a week after actual release, by my calculations.

There are friendly folk on most servers -- too bad your friends are gone (I know the feeling) ... you can find new friends on most any of the servers.