As some others have said, I don't think you've the right to complain. When you sign up for something your attention should be on the dungeon/raid/whatever when you get into it; not texting.

Could the tank have handled it better? Yes most definitely. However you chose to make it worse instead of simply removing the mark from yourself and just apologizing for missing the boss. If the tank continued at that point, then it would be fully on him. The reason behind your kick over the tanks was likely due to you provoking him into not doing anything, so they probably saw you as the more detrimental one to their group. Just my thoughts on the matter.