Honestly my Queue times as a Ninja main don't ever really feel that much longer (if at all) than my Scholar's. Dungeons require a lot of DPS and they fill up pretty quickly. I don't ever feel like I'm judged harshly or kicked at all. ...Then again I think my dps isn't half bad. So as long as I keep hitting stuff I'm good.

I feel healer and tanks get judged more harshly because if they fuck up, usually it means a wipe. You know?

Dps is far more lax than I think you're suggesting.

Edit: And with stormblood coming with even more DPS, I think their timers might hurt a little bit. But it'll be for the best. I think we'll still have the same ratio of healers vs tanks vs dps in the end result