Everyone really hates me for not be the best player

[SpookyGhost]

Assuming not trolling:

I think you might be making a mountain out of a mole hill here. If you caused a wipe and someone yelled at you, that sucks, but it doesn't mean you're now fated to always cause wipes. Learn what you did wrong and figure out how you can stop doing it. An example: You say you have mana problems on DRK, have you tried using Blood Price for trash pulls and Blood Weapon + Blood Price on bosses? If you're not prepared to drop Grit just yet, then Blood Price would be enough as long as you don't go absolutely insane on DA Soul Eater usage. If you're getting low on MP and Blood Price has run out or is about to, then just be aware of that and don't dump your MP on anything that'll cause you to drop Darkside until you can use BP again.

Any problem you have can be solved and if, in the end, you decide you can't be bothered or just don't have fun improving, then you can always play another game or even just stick to casual stuff in this game like crafting or RP or w/e.

[Aldora]

Assuming not trolling:

I think you might be making a mountain out of a mole hill here. If you caused a wipe and someone yelled at you, that sucks, but it doesn't mean you're now fated to always cause wipes. Learn what you did wrong and figure out how you can stop doing it.

This is basically all there is too it. Since we are all human beings, we make mistakes. But, we also learn from them. The amount of effort you put into it will determine the quality of skills you learn and speed in which you learn them. We must not lose sight of the fact that we should not be scared of making mistakes. How else will we be able to learn from them?

"Ones own mind can be their worst enemy."

But, it doesn't have to be that way. I can't remember how many times i thought to myself "I can't do this...". The moment you give up, that's gonna be the end of it. Another thing you need to understand is that you're not alone. There are so many people who've experienced the same difficulties as you have. It helps if you talk about the things you're having difficulty with. If the problem seems too complex, break it down into smaller bits.

Just... Stop working yourself up with this spiral of negativity. It's not gonna help you, but only make it worse. Take a deep breath. Relax. Clear your mind of all the problems you're dealing with and start from the beginning. Work your way up from there.

There is no shame in admitting that you are having issues with Alexander. Or that you are having troubles dpsing as a healers. I mean, since when did we have to be the best in what we do? As far as i can tell, there multiple levels of skills people can have, like:

• Best
• Exceptional
• Great
• Good
• Experienced
• Ok
• Inexperienced
• Learning
• Completely unfamiliar
• Lazy
• Unwilling

If you ask people around you, everyone will have a different opinion what it means to be "Good", "Great" or "Best". Someone with a high level of skill will tend to say that you have to match their skill level in order to be "Good" and that you're "Bad" because a healer doesn't DPS, A DPS that can't deal 2000 damage during an encounter or a Tank that can't hold hate. Nonsense…

People will only call each other “Bad” if they don’t meet a certain level of their expectations. But, why would really care about what they think? You need to feel good about what YOU have achieved, not what other believe you should achieve.

Every single player has to learn their way around the game. Some learn faster than others, but you don't have to be able to beat Savage to be considered "Good".

Think about that.

Strive to being “Good”, so that you can grow to become “Great” and end up being “Exceptional”. If that means, being able to clear Alexander - The Cuff of the Son, then that’s your goal. Just take one step at a time.

One final thing… You don’t need to have close friends playing XIV in order to have people to play with. You can make friends, simply by talking to people. Share stories and ask for help if you get stuck.

We’re out there and we’re willing to listen.