This is problem with the community itself.
People who think that, those who have already cleared thing should dedicate all their time and energy to be nice to them and teach them everything while those same people already learned a long time ago by themselves.

You can't expect everyone to have the time and will to do that and should consider that, you'll have to meet people that are sharing the same goal as you.

There are times when you can help if you feel you want it, there's a time when you also do things for yourself and expect the others to understand that they don't have the same experience as you so they can't join...
And there is nothing toxic ou discriminating in that.

We all have differents experiences, goals and expectation.

That's why pf exists on which you can put a description to let player know what you exactly want to do in the duty.
The day things will get better is the day when people will actually respect what is asked in the description.