Are tanks a scapegoat for performance issues?

[spelley]

DPS blames Tank (if they lose Enmity/pulling too much) and Healers (if anyone dies while the healer still has MP)
Tank blames DPS (if mobs stay alive so long they run out of CDs/messing up mechanics) and Healers (if they go down and the Healer still has MP)
Healer blames Tank (for not using enough CDs/pulling too much) or DPS (if the enemy lives so long the Healer runs out of MP/getting hit by AOEs)

Literally everyone blames everyone else, when it's usually a combination. DPS forgets a mechanic or eat an AOE trying to eek out damage, Tank is a little overzealous with pulling enemies while with undergeared/inexperienced DPS and/or Healer. Healer stays in Cleric Stance too long or doesn't compensate for Tank/DPS mistakes. The best players are able to objectively review their own play and point out their own mistakes.

I know as a DRG I am well aware that if we do big pulls back-to-back in the Expert Roulette dungeons (I'm not super well geared yet) I am going to run out of TP pretty quickly as I just don't have the damage yet due to gear limitations to kill quickly and keep up my AOE Rotation TP-wise. I let the Tank and Healer know so they can compensate. So far they have listened and understood, but I guarantee I'll run into a group someday soon that won't (or I'll get geared up enough that it's moot).

[Venjenz]

Literally everyone blames everyone else, when it's usually a combination. DPS forgets a mechanic or eat an AOE trying to eek out damage, Tank is a little overzealous with pulling enemies while with undergeared/inexperienced DPS and/or Healer. Healer stays in Cleric Stance too long or doesn't compensate for Tank/DPS mistakes. The best players are able to objectively review their own play and point out their own mistakes.

It's funny...minus maybe one or two times ever, the only time I ever see anyone admitting they screwed something up in group chat is because I did the admitting.

I see plenty of people goofing up plenty of stuff (two DPS I had in Aery...I am talking to you), and I hardly ever say anything other than something about the mechanics (kills bees/dogs quick, use blasting device, run behind pillar, etc)...but where admitting your own goof ups is concerned, I seem to be a very rare individual who is both a) not perfect and b) aware of not being perfect.

And based on what happened in my first Limitless Blue (H) run ever...yeah, even when everyone screws up, it's my fault apparently. OT blue add, no no bad tank, focus green. Focus green, no no bad tank, OT blue add. DPS gets knocked off platform, bad tank. Nobody activates shield, bad tank. Activate harpoon, bad tank. Don't activate harpoon, bad tank. I had one of those awesome DPS'ers who just fixated on yelling at me specifically for an entire trial. And oh btw, I said "my first time here" when the trial began...which I guess means "please heap your abuse on me." It was really enjoyable.