The limelight doesn't matter to me at all. It's the back seat driving that frustrates me.

When I was newer, it was especially irritating having vets complaining about my pace or pulling for me when I felt like I was struggling at the pace I was going. Then if I didn't pull off them, they cry about me not doing my job.

Now that I am a vet, it's the newer people that complain. Ex: "Dude.. did you really think pulling that many would work?" (Main Scenario). It's not as bad, just because you have the experience to know exactly what the issue was and that the other player is ignorant of the meta, but at the same time, I don't really need to deal with this as a healer or DPS.

TLDR: you had the option to queue as tank and decided not to knowing you could not change your mind mid-duty. You decided you did not want to be the driver. Don't try to drive from the back seat