I'm going to attempt to expand on this and just straight up ask: How do you tank (hold aggro)?

I tanked in 11 with both Nin and Pld back in the day. I've tanked in WoW and Rift at high end stuff, I love tanking and it's just something I enjoy doing in MMO's. It absolutely befuddles me that I can't figure out how to tank in this game. Is it just another broken aspect of the game? I tried looking up guides and the best answer I found just said "Currently at end game, most LS's just throw multiple Gladiators at everything" and I just couldn't accept that as an actual answer.

I can hold single targets ok if the DD's wait and let me ramp up the aggro before they go crazy which is fine and expected. Mostly the issue is groups of 3 or more mobs where I can't even get aggro on something before mobs go after the healer (from requiring heals).

So far this game has been the most miserable tanking experience of any game I've ever played and *really* does not make me want to keep playing (that's not supposed to be a straight burn on 14, just simply a fact of my current experience). I feel like an absolute failure in groups. I can't stress how much it really, really makes me feel like crap to not be able to even protect the healer.