If a tank loses aggro, whose fault is it?

[JunseiKei]

I'm curious, is the new tank meta not to use defense stance so they can push out a little more dps?

Technically speaking, the meta has always been to stance dance, being in DPS stance when not in danger and then utilizing the damage mitigation built in (PLD/DRK) or increased HP and healing incoming as well as access to other defensive cooldowns (WAR). The issue is many people forget the dancing part of stance dance and eat everything outside of the tank stance. This is fine for your raid team or people you know. This is not recommended with randoms of varying skill levels, hence there being a start to the issues.

Also, a lot of tanks apparently like to start fights in DPS stance, or do 1 enmity combo at the start and that's it. <_< I've seen so many DPS pull hate, even after using things like Quelling, Shadewalker or Smokescreen. :\ Sometimes the skill and gear difference is that great and people don't want to admit it.