If a tank loses aggro, whose fault is it?

[Jim_Berry]

Why do people feel the need to place blame?

Because one think that everything should go THEIR way.

Can we not just chock it up to a failed attempt and both try to learn from it?

No, because it comes down to doing your job, and to be able to do it without hurting yourself. For example, a Healer should NOT be dps'ing if he can't handle the multitask.

Why does the tank have to be at fault? Why does the DPS have to be at fault?

See my comment above!

If you feel your pulling too much hate and the tank cant keep up (or the healer or dps, or w/e may be the case), than ADJUST for it. Control your DPS, or talk to your tank if pulls are too large that you cant heal fast enough. Whatever the case may be.

I have to dispute this. Asking a DPS, especially a BLM, to hold/adjust DPS is ridiculous. You're asking him to stop doing his job. I feel like if a BLM isn't pulling for the tank, but just sitting back and killing stuff, then it comes down to the tank's crowd control, which is HIS job, not the BLM's.

Sometimes many factors are at play. Inexperience, gear level, play styles, fatigue, stress, etc... Don't just immediately wag fingers. If you just really do not have the patience for what is going on, leave and get into the next one. It generally doesn't take that long, and is better than everyone at each other's throats and hating the game over such a simple thing.

If its not gonna matter in a day, then why sweat it?