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[Mycow8me]

Been playing since ... well my forum join date atleast... I don't know anyone on my server well enough to call a friend other than the ones that came with me from ffxi. I blame DF and a severe lack of server side content. You don't meet people leveling your character, you don't meet people trying to group for story, you don't do alot of things with people from your server in this game. I dunno, I see where the OPs coming from but I see it from different reasonings. If I hadn't played ffxi for years and years I probably could have adapted to the come and go social aspect of this game alot easier. FFXI forced you to be very active/outgoing if you wanted to get anything done.

[Atoli]

FFXI forced you to be very active/outgoing if you wanted to get anything done.

And XIV forces you to be active and outgoing if you want friends

[Mycow8me]

And XIV forces you to be active and outgoing if you want friends

I think thats part of the problem though, there is alot of come and go mentality in this game. Only so many people want to be social and once they have formed their inner circles, its hard to join them. Maybe I'm just old and jaded I dunno.

[CookieMonsta]

I think thats part of the problem though, there is alot of come and go mentality in this game. Only so many people want to be social and once they have formed their inner circles, its hard to join them. Maybe I'm just old and jaded I dunno.

I find that so many people come and go (because this game allows you to easily do both) you start to wonder if its worth bonding with people anymore.

[Kosmos992k]

Been playing since ... well my forum join date atleast... I don't know anyone on my server well enough to call a friend other than the ones that came with me from ffxi. I blame DF and a severe lack of server side content. You don't meet people leveling your character, you don't meet people trying to group for story, you don't do alot of things with people from your server in this game. I dunno, I see where the OPs coming from but I see it from different reasonings. If I hadn't played ffxi for years and years I probably could have adapted to the come and go social aspect of this game alot easier. FFXI forced you to be very active/outgoing if you wanted to get anything done.

There is a simple change that SE could make, and have laid the groundwork to make, that would help. Cross server friend lists, and cross server moogle mail. The contact list that they added is a step in the right direction, but when I meet some players (or player) in a DF instance and we talk and have fun in the instance, I'd like to know what server they come from and be able to friend them. That would help.

So would people in general communicating, but short of twisting their arms, I don't know how we can encourage players in general to communicate better.

You get what you put in--if you're not meeting people, it's your approach to socializing in an MMO. People respond to those who take the time for them and are around them often, although some places (dungeons, etc) aren't where people normally go to "hang out". FCs are generally better, as are Linkshells or Discord servers where people can slow down and have more friendly chats, or start to associate voices with characters.

Not all of them are a good fit, but there are many out there. Also, people see what they want to see.

I met a player (former friend) in-game who complained that my FC didn't like them when they were in our Discord as my friend. They said that no one would talk to them except one, while I saw multiple people talking. Meanwhile, everyone was asking me in private when they were going to join us. I personally invited them to a voice channel when they wouldn't join on their own. They never stopped to ask anyone about their lives, and very rarely accepted invitations, and only to things that benefited them like a bird farm they wanted.

Eventually, they left. This was a person who frequently complained about being disliked, unwanted, etc. And to this day, as far as I know, they've never stopped to think if their attitude might be part of the problem.

I have seen this type of thing happen many times. It blows my mind how some people can complain bitterly about being left out, or not being talked to, when in fact I see most people in the FC talking to them. Of course the fact is that when they do little or nothing in response, and take no interest in their FC mates, people tend to become more superficial in their communication in reaction to that. The net result is that the uncommunicative player feels left out and gets angry because "no one talks to them", when in fact the opposite is true, and the problem was their own silence and distance.

TL;DR - TALK TO PEOPLE, be friendly, engage in social conversation, be civil, be respectful of all players, don't be a jerk. It's all easy stuff really.