The problem is no one actually does what you say. No one actually says WHAT they did wrong, nor how to do it right.

The only thing I see people ever shout is "You s*ck!"
And when someone asks what did they do wrong, the above, or "You were stupid" doesnt actually answer the question.

Very few people will actually explain what was wrong, and what is the correct thing to do.
Because we're some of the few willing to say, doesnt mean 99% of all fights end up the same way.