Let me tell you my happy story: Got a group together to go into Zurvan Extreme -- blind. Filled relatively slowly compared to most Zurvan parties apparently (it is a rare stipulation) but everyone was nice and cuddly and polite. Two pre-existing friends gave each other a hug, I assumed we were all just getting in on it, and thus we did. No excessive frustration sounds, no blaming, etc. Someone even had to tend to a physical person who needed their aid. We were all understanding. Just put "no blaming" in the PF or something like that. Only one other person was from my server. We friended each other immediately.