\o\ Finding your Sweet Lover (Or Nightmare) /o/

[Atoli]

Would anyone else like to put their input?

I planned to, but reading 3 pages of only personal attacks between OP and his acquaintances was kind of off-putting..>.>

On topic:
As someone who has been married ingame for approaching 2 years, while also not being on Balmung and not having roleplayed for many years, am I allowed to say that I actually think the idea is nice?

Let's not kid ourselves, the interest is there.
The mere fact that the marriage partner hookup thread is one of the biggest and most frequented topics on any of the language forums (yes, the other languages have their own version of said thread) shows that more than obviously.
Last week we got the official 2016 cencus, and while I don't remember the actual number, it was ten thousands of marriages each month.

No matter how much you struggle and try to make jokes about only erping RPers from Balmung being interested in it and ew this game is not about hooking up, thousands upon thousands of players are doing it every month, so stop kidding yourself.

Now as for if I actually want it?
No, not really. Not just because I don't need it, but also because I don't believe in match making (although last year's Valentione event was hilarious, and that was basically matchmaking, just without player input ). But would I mind it being introduced for other players?
No, why would I? Finding a partner is such an essential part of life that it makes absolute sense that many players want that in their fantasy life too, and giving them the tools to achieve that doesn't seem wrong to me.

[Cleftobismal]

I planned to, but reading 3 pages of only personal attacks between OP and his acquaintances was kind of off-putting..>.>

Dw about it. There is a saying out of the frying pan and into the fire, and I remembered players like you aren't interested in random drama. Hence I'll introduce someone with authority if this continues on.


As for your respectful post which I greatly thank you for.

Now as for if I actually want it?
No, not really. Not just because I don't need it, but also because I don't believe in match making (although last year's Valentione event was hilarious, and that was basically matchmaking, just without player input ). But would I mind it being introduced for other players?
No, why would I? Finding a partner is such an essential part of life that it makes absolute sense that many players want that in their fantasy life too, and giving them the tools to achieve that doesn't seem wrong to me.

Can't argue with that. Not everyone finds a partner in a traditional sense. Everyone is different. And in my experience when a game implements a system like this. It's typically used for the bonuses given out of it which is fine, because the intention of such a system is for everyone to enjoy it, relax and have fun.

[Squigley]

Imagine the disappointment when getting hooked up with a blue-haired lala. And the lala also happens to be a bitey one.

[Theodric]

It's highly unlikely to happen for legal reasons. Such a feature could very easily be abused and you only need to look at how desperate, depraved and manipulative some of the individuals seeking online relationships happen to be. Even if something like this were to go ahead it'd need to be carefully moderated and that just isn't an efficient use of time, money and resources.

[Cleftobismal]

It's highly unlikely to happen for legal reasons.

Legal reasons such as?

Even if something like this were to go ahead it'd need to be carefully moderated and that just isn't an efficient use of time, money and resources.

Why would an automated system need to be moderated and for what behavior?

Even without it us players are creating ways to do match making anyways such as those hook up threads.

Could you go into more detail please so I can understand what you're trying to tell me? I see you're telling me X, but I need to know what Y did to cause Z.

[Yasuhiro]

World
Balmung

Like Poetry.

[Alynn]

I say no just because:

A) Something like the marriage thread exists
B) More time could be invested by SE into other projects
C) With something like this and other dating finders(?), it'd be easier to be catphished/catphish
D) If you really wanted to, you can just advertise yourself over Party Finder, even more with cross-server (although there are limitations to this since its only people from the same data center)

Disagree with me if you want, but these are just my personal opinions. Also I notice that if you actively look for someone, it hardly ever works out. That being said, it's not always true. At the end of the day, I think finding your lover/someone special is something that takes time and happens out of the blue. Just think of it as a pleasant surprise so you don't set yourself up for disappointment!

[Cleftobismal]

A) Something like the marriage thread exists

It's because that thread exists shows a huge interest in a match making system. They didn't have to make a world Party finder, after all the forums exist.

The point of it all, the match making, the party finder, the raid finder etc, is for convenience for a service that has a pretty high demand.

B) More time could be invested by SE into other projects

I could say the same thing about Lord of Vermilion and some of the holiday events. Yet. I understand not everything implemented in the game is solely just for me alone. I would agree with your point if I was the only one interested in such a system. However. . . . As the reason stated above, there is interest.

C) With something like this and other dating finders(?), it'd be easier to be catphished/catphish

Can you explain to me what you mean by this? Sorry I'm not following. I need further clarification.

D) If you really wanted to, you can just advertise yourself over Party Finder, even more with cross-server (although there are limitations to this since its only people from the same data center)

Instead of organizing players who are interested in this, you'd rather have us continue to use the Party Finder, cluttering it up with even more ads you prolly aren't interested in or even want to see. To me it sounds like you don't mind players doing anything in regards to match making or finding an eternal bond. It's just you're not comfortable with SE dedicating the time to make a system to better the many voices who may like this.

That being said, it's not always true. At the end of the day, I think finding your lover/someone special is something that takes time and happens out of the blue. Just think of it as a pleasant surprise so you don't set yourself up for disappointment!

But match making does take time. You don't just "Oh lets get married because the system paired us". Of course not. This is a way to bring together two people with the same interests. If they don't like each other, tough. They can move on and find another. If they like each other but they aren't interested in doing an EB. Fine. They just received a new friend.

Not everybody does the approach you would like others to do. Even with the marriage partner thread, I bet you there are A LOT of players who aren't comfortable posting on it. This gives them a way to step outside of their comfort levels.

Disagree with me if you want, but these are just my personal opinions.

I mean you're free to disagree with me. It doesn't mean I'm gonna bite your head off. Just prepare yourself for a debate. Bwahahahahahahaha

[Alynn]

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We could debate about this all day, but I would like to clarify that I am not uncomfortable with your idea, and I say this as someone who has found their partner with the marriage thread. I am just stating that if someone really wanted a partner, what is stopping them from posting? There's no shame in posting because it's service that is in high demand, and it isn't like anyone is going to go after them with a pitchfork unless they're up to some suspicious things. You don't even have to post on the thread. You can lurk and if someone catches your eye, send them Moogle Mail or /tell. If anything, I've seen more support than negative things from the thread.

I just think there's a lot of unnecessary time and resources spent from SE's point of view for something players can basically do themselves. If this gets brought up to SE and they have manpower to create something like this, then go for it.

That being said, I'd also like to point out that players can filter out what they want on party finder, especially now with a lot more "clutter" from cross center.

TL;DR: if someone wants a partner that much, you may either A) leave it to time or B) just lurk/post on the thread.

Good luck with finding your partner o7

[Vidu]

I dont see any reason that would require such a system. We have the forums, even more so the PF. I dont understand why the game would have to do all the match making for us - specially in a context like this when it isnt really about the "content" itself but more about doing it with someone whos in some way meaningful to you - I dont see why its the devs/games job to find someone like that for you...

Are you guys really that desperate?