Why so toxic?

[Miste]

My mother tongue is German and not English

Well you actually pointed out one of the reasons why you shouldn't assume tone in a post of text. Yes, how you write posts makes a difference, but the problem with assuming without asking for clarification is that not everyone who posts here has English as their mother tongue. Even people with English as their mother tongue have varying degrees of knowledge about the language, the size of their vocabulary, and specific connotation.

@Miste: Well I can only speak for my reasons but Texas post did feel a little toxic. Why is it necessary to ask this question?

You could easily turn that around on the OP and say their post felt a little toxic and ask them why was it necessary to come and post in here asking why these forums are toxic (just an example, I don't actually see it that way myself). It is kind of like you are asking why do people ask questions at all. I don't feel like that is a good argument against what Texa asked. People ask questions because they want information back. Why they ask is reasons they have or because they are unable to understand something so they ask for clarity. Just because we don't understand why someone asks a question doesn't mean that question is inherently toxic.

Its like you are in a topic that talks about the bad things of the game and someone comes in and write "if you dislike X why do you still play it?"

Why is this a toxic question to ask? If someone posts a lot of things they dislike about a game is it wrong to ask what keeps them still playing it? You could infer the negative that this person is actually trying to say 'well if you don't like it then leave', but why is it we go to the negative interpretation instead of the positive one that they are just asking because they are curious about what the poster does enjoy about the game or to just stay neutral about it?

Also I am not saying that people don't ever post things and they ARE actually trying to be toxic, but making negative assumptions all the time is toxic too if you wanna go that route.

The OP said that she still enjoys reading here (only likes reddit a little better) and only wonders why its getting more toxic now. Nothing in her post suggest that she hates this forum and absolutely love the other one, just that she noticed a change and wanted an answer.

Nothing in Texa's post suggests that she hates OP either so why are we assuming the negative? Also if we are just going to go on negative assumptions here then we shouldn't have double standards.

You could easily assume toxicity from the OP's post too. You could assume based on what they said that they came in here asking 'why are you guys so toxic and why aren't you guys as nice as Reddit people'. That also sounds just as toxic as the negative assumption of what Texa wrote which would be something like 'well if you don't like it here go back where you came from and don't post here'.

Thing is, did either of them actually write those things? No. I just wrote the negative way you could interpret their posts.

Also since nobody can see the other person one can only imagine how they mean it and its seems that there were quite some people that read it in the negative way.

My response was basically we should stop doing this (even if Texa could have worded it better). Instead of making assumptions just read it in a neutral way or have the benefit of the doubt to use the positive interpretation instead. If you ask me not reading everything people say negatively would help with toxicity problems.