I don't have the link right now as I am on mobile, but there is an inofficial census floating around somewhere. Just use the search function to find it, a new one just came out. It basically shows a list of all servers based on how many people finished the current MSQ and how many people finished raids. So if you are looking for a server with an active endgame community, go for a server high up in that list. Depending on if you guys like raiding or not, adjust based on that

This may sound rude, but to me, servers like Faerie feel dead. Hardly anyone is around and the PF is so empty. I'm used to bustling towns and shout matches and 40+ entries in PF in the evening. But to some, that may seem overwhelming, so a mid-sized server may be more to their liking