Why do you raid?

[Sparktacus]

This is a good point. I always thought I should get Tomestone gear so I can do the next dungeons when they are released.
But then I wonder, why do those dungeons?

Many people mentioned the challenge. I agree that the challenge is exciting and it's very wonderful when you clear the raid after many tries.

But now on the 3rd floor, after many groups and many failures, I'm not sure balancing time / reward is worth it. Perhaps I am better suited for a crafter after all.

I got into raiding mostly from the pressure from friends to join. Until then, I spent almost all my time crafting and gathering and doing dungeons for tomes to do more crafting. And getting achievements.

But by not raiding I do kind of feel like I am missing out on an important aspect of the game.

Raiding here is not as fleshed out as it should be either. I think you are right about balance, I just cleared A10S myself and i found it very fun, but I know 11 will be daunting and require a much more coordinated dance that I can definitely empathize with your exhaustion. If it isn't fun don't do it. Perhaps have fun with ex primals, I find them a lot of fun. There is also some rumors that there will be a 3 tier difficulty system in 4.0 which might help give some more balanced and fun raids.