This is a bigger problem than just Parry. IMO there needs to be far better secondary stats in this game. Accuracy is annoying, parry is dead, det on healers is useless, everyone wants crits except BLM etc. Even just taking WoW's stats would be such a huge improvement.

That said, another huge issue is the lack of choice of secondary stats. I don't want to have raid = crit/det, lore = det/sps (or whatever), I'd rather have them be random stats, so that I can keep farming for the combination I want in the content that I want.