The Lodestone Allows People To Stalk

[Androir]

Yea but the problem is when changing your name to get rid of stalkers it still shares the same link. So no matter what if they have the page bookmarked (and they do) they can find your different name and appearance lol. Also if you google the old name the new one comes up. Ya can't totally hide unless you start over haha ^^

Yes. They need to roll a new number for your char there each new name.

[Thalvaus]

Yes. They need to roll a new number for your char there each new name.

This may be the best way to go about it. Or at least one thing. Too many situations can enable an angry mob (even if it isn't the intent), that will attack anyone who even speaks in a general sense. Mob mentality dictates to attack anyone not a part of the mob, always remain on the offensive. I help people with depression all the time, most of it from bullying, and it never gets any better and the bullies always believe they are in the right (or make excuses for their persistence), while being fiercely tight-knit and attacking people or side issues rather than realizing what is actually taking place or what is being discussed.

It's unfortunate that it is almost a necessity for a service to have to account for this, but it's human nature. And we all make mistakes.

I personally feel empathetic towards anyone who endures this because I see it daily as part of my work, and now realize that I may think harsh things about those who enable it (to mention a flaw of my own character).

[Kitfly]

DO NOT SLANDER THEM ON SOCIAL MEDIA BECAUSE THAT IS HARASSMENT.

Libel*

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[Yawnie]

You know.... One of the LS's I'm in had often told me of a girl who went around begging people for fantasias. Back then I just ignored it because meh, what did it have to do with me? But now.... NOW I KNOW. Considering the LS doesn't really associate with any sort of drama I'm just honestly surprised you became infamous for it... If it was you lol

Anyways, might wanna be a bit more careful from now on if what the other poster says is true cause it looks like it's coming back to bite you :x

Related note! I think lodestone is fine, helps me keep track of the people who I've learned to avoid.

[Hestern_Nestern]

This is a difficult topic to respond to. I've been chewing on my thoughts after seeing it. It became immediately obvious to me that if I posted, the general presumption would be that I am one of the "stalkers" she is complaining about. Indeed, she and I have met. I'll let my post history on this forum speak for me.

Now, I've not personally spoken to her or sought her out since those few short days we knew one another. To understand: even I who did not seek her out eventually stumbled upon her. She almost always has a PF up for her latest group attempt. Also, her name changes were a tad too obvious, at least at first. I think she's even still on my friend's list (that's my bad). She is, however, on my significant other's blacklist; obviously he wasn't too happy with my interactions with her, either. That's how I saw her new name, not through any intent of my own - if you block someone, apparently if they don't block you (or maybe even after you both block each other?), whenever they put a PF up, the line will be grayed out. Once you've spent time with her, and escaped, it's actually relatively easy to accidentally run into her, again and again, as I have described. It's not fun. I discovered this thread by hitting "new posts" - I hit this button obsessively, looking for a new thread, especially about patch 3.4. And here I am.

And while every time I've seen her floating about, I've felt this urge that I needed to warn others of the potential volatility of her company, I did not. As I said, this is a difficult topic to me. On one hand, I have my own principles, honesty, etc, weighing down on me. On the other, I understand the potential for me to be a negative force myself.

To those who have been in her company before and don't ever wish for a repeat: I'd recommend not following her lodestone page too closely. Bookmark her page, if you must. No one can stop you from creating a bookmark. Though, only look at the page if someone enters into your group(s) with a similar speech pattern and demeanor as Miss Mistreated, and are causing the same kind of trouble; this will allow you to protect yourself from her, which is really all you should be using the lodestone to do. Just understand - this type of situation invites people to side with the perpetrator, because your actions make them seem like a victim. It's stupid and ridiculous, I get that, and I understand if you continue to approach the situation the same way; I am not here to make you feel bad about that.

It's just: we all know how she's treated a good many of us, but that's kind of why you might be better off leaving her alone: she can screw up all of her potential friendships all by herself. She's good at that. Mind, I understand what you are -attempting- to do. You don't want real damage to be caused to someone. Honestly, though, we're usually harmed more by people's insidious behavior than cartoon villainy the likes of Miss Benavault/Carver/Mistreated/Whatever. The only person who can lose in a game of victims are the true victims. Your intent to protect others from her will only take your toll on you. Someone with a predatory nature will shake off the naysayers, gain support from the gullible, and in general find new people to bug, regardless of what has been done.

To the developers: I wholeheartedly recommend you give an option to "generate a new player url". Don't make this the default, but an option, for people who might feel harassed. I say don't make it a default because I feel like it'd be easier to implement if people are making requests on a case-by-case basis rather than setting up a whole system just for this. Maybe I'm wrong.

To Miss Mistreated: Block me and block everyone who has felt antagonized by you. I understand that may be a lot, maybe even more than the 200 blacklist limit. It's true, I'm tired of seeing you on PF all the time; I'm not saying "please stop being there", of course. I'm just hoping that if you block me, I might not be able to see it anymore. You also need to stop complaining to people, if you're trying to get others to forget your past. Just disappear. You might think I'm helping you, but really I know your base nature will be your undoing. I don't need to help you with that.

Please, everyone, be wise, and be well.