Hi all, I've recently been wanting to change from my main of WHM to DRK. I have PLD at 50 from before HW, so am used to tanking at least those dungeons and most 50 content on PLD. However, I find that even more so today than before HW, people seem to love pulling mobs before I can get to them to even Unmend, let alone Unleash. Not only this, some synched dps seem to find fun in targeting and focusing on mobs I have the least aggro on and going all out in an attempt to steal hate (I have a bard at 60, too, and know how easy it is to read the enmity meter next to mob names...they're even color coded :

It is easy to get aggro back no matter who 'steals' it, or even when other people pull a pack or two without me, but why do people even do this? I'm not going slow, and I plan my pulls according to the capability of the healer and the amount of dps I see coming after using the first one or 2 pulls to gauge both healer ability and dps AoE. In the old days I'd pull all the way to the gate in Brayflox HM and as far as possible to pull in Snowcloak -- I'm not unfamiliar with speed runs, etc.

How do you main tanks deal with things like this? People who pull for you and seem to be in a competition with you for aggro? This very thing is one of the reasons I went with WHM as main instead of PLD back before Heavensward, though this time I want to try to tough it out with DRK since I love the playstyle and the animations ^^ Any advice would be helpful [as a healer if people kept doing this with the intention to be abusive and/or hurt the party, I'd just let them die...bad, maybe, but still..].