No one is obligated to provide a "full run" for anybody. Want to wait for all the fruit to pop in AV? Do a preformed party. Not pulling/killing every mob on every floor is not harassment.
As for the whole not waiting for protect and ss, swift cast protect during the first pull. Problem solved. Btw, when I was leveling ast, my Protect was in slot 4 of my cc and couldn't use it for the lower level dungeons (clerics is more important) and I didn't miss the mitigation one bit.