Quote Originally Posted by Lunaxia View Post
You just solved the answer to your own complaint.

Is it silly not waiting 30 seconds for buffs? Yes. But it's far sillier and far pettier to refuse to heal because of it.
Yeah, but I still had to take up for the healers out there who attempt to cast buffs at the start of an instance only to see the tank and everyone else run off as fast as possible. There's no reason to not wait for buffs, but of course I did have to make mention of the common sense approach to buffing an impatient party.

As far as flat out refusing to heal due to people not waiting for buffs, well, that's just childish and immature. If you attempted to buff the party and they ran off, suck it up and buff them during the first trash pull. It's not that big of a deal, especially considering that the same people the OP called into question (high level tanks running the instance for lore) are sync'd down, yes, but they are still over geared and more than able to take some hits while being buffed, and like I also mentioned it's best to let the tank build some enmity before healing the tank anyway.