Your opening paragraph is very niche. It's been proven time and again that what you describe is not the norm. Saying you are tired of it implies it happens on a regular basis. Which I'm mostly sure it does not. Also I'd love to see an official statement from SE about how their game is supposed to be played. What you want and what you determine SE wants from you are two totally different things.

Secondly, are you mad that you can't handle the pacing of the dungeon dictated by the tank or are you mad you can't read signage and enjoy the environment? Because there are solutions for both.

Finally, please provide a solid reason why any mmo should ever cater to individual play over group play. Group play, varying skill/gear levels, and the trinity make up the only level of rng that offers any kind of challenge to dungeons. And you want all of that to come to a screeching halt just so you can push less buttons and look at the pretty things?

Gain more bearing.