I feel sorry for you OP. It can be very frustrating in this situation. As a healer it annoys me when the tank pulls the whole of the first floor / zone. You then spend the whole time cure spamming whilst hoping no dps gets hit by an aoe. You get little chance to throw any other move in like a card or dot. And of course the healer much be shit for letting the tank die (if this happens). I've always felt a pressure when you want to view a cs for the first time too. Now I just do it, most of the time no one will kick a healer or tank. The party finder is not a viable option for long time experience either imo, especially if your doing roulette for the bonus.