Question..

[yukaru]

thanks for some of the advice guys. Im just pretty shy in general even behind a computer screen lol. ^^

my sis is the same way. she gets nervous around people even when playing online. She's gotten a lot better, though we still are not real active in our community. it's not that we don't want to be, but we'll get there. Everyone here has given great advice, so good luck. I'm sure you'll find some friends that are perfect for you.

[Joe_Schmoe]

Have you guys met people in game and became good friends with them?? How did it happen? Because noone ever talks to me lol, and if we do it's like -spam jump, then runs away-. Or i'd post multiple party finders asking to join Linkshells but noone ever invited me. it's so lonely :/

Not really, but I tend to be a loner anyway, so it's less of an issue. There's also the issue you mentioned, much selfishness and/or loners like me. Lots of tanks/healers in FATEs that don't want to tank or heal, or, despite announcing that you have a FATE party going, noone shows up. Long story short, you're not the only one. I guess my advice would be, just help other people out, heal/tank for them if they're having problems, res them if they're dead etc. It was pretty much how I got invited to my FC, so it works. ;]

[Azper]

I have! I actually met 3 of my best friends from this game, who I've since met up with on multiple occasions in real life now. As for how we met, I just stumbled into their Mumble channel one night and the rest is kind of history. We just kind of clicked right away, like you tend to do with people. I have a few others I've met up with outside the game or stay in touch with outside the game as well.

You have to be somewhat outgoing and be willing to go out of your comfort zone and just be engaging and friendly. You can't sit around and wait for friends to come to you.

[FinaSel]

What kind of friends you talking about? I think I created much stronger relationships in XI (ones that transferred to RL) then I have in XIV.

This.

There is a lot to take away from this, especially if you have played XI.
(Unless things changed since I played it, which was ages ago), In XI, there was no way to just get a random group. You HAD to ask people and make friends to do just about anything after level 15. You needed a strong network. There was pretty much no "solo-play" after level 15.


There was no dungeon or party finder tool. (That I remember?)

And the friends you made became the people you did EVERYTHING with, because there was no cross-server stuff.

In XIV it's too easy to get hooked up with random people you'll never ever meet again.
I would say that XIV is like Tinder and XI is like meeting someone at a bar / cafe / anywhere in the real world. (I've never used Tinder just saying that from what I know about it.)

if you want to create meaningful relationships it's important to put yourself out there and go the extra mile to be friendly / helpful / talkative.

[Bunnchu]

Well I havent played XI so I'm not sure how that works. But it does sound like it would be nicer.

[tymora]

The harder the struggle, the closer the bond.
Find a static, do raids and if everyone stays in it for a long time (big if), you will get what you want.

[Bracken]

what you need to do if point at 1 person in Iddlyshire then stalk them until they're your friend or find random Lalafels and stand behind them sniffing their hair, they really like that. If they both fail though, gather a lot of crystals and i mean lots and pray until you summon your own giant kitty primal friend, because that apparently works.

[Toguro]

It's easy to get "friends" who just want your tail. But those are... bad friends.

It's harder to get friends who are around to BE friends. Now those are the good ones!


At least I'm this game I guess..

But I'd recommend joining an FC on the smaller side 12-20 people that is very diverse with people of all kinds. With diversity in the FC you have less to worry about I'm terms of certain things. I would go into detail but nah.

[Luciano_Bozzelli]

I've met many good people, so many that I wouldn't leave my server. And I even met my girlfriend on here and she is quite wonderful, and I thank god for putting her in my life. You get a lil more satisfaction out of the game when you play it to help others, rather than play it to grind.

She was the one that in my times of grinding would calm me down with simple things like, fishing, and fixing up the furniture in our house, and crafting together. I wouldn't be the crafter I was if it wasn't for her...

And wouldn't be the crafter I was if it wasn't for the generosity of my raid group. That's the long answer, and the short one is yes, many friends you will find. Sadly it helps to be good at your job lol. Cause I've even seen some of my "friends" be cruel at some times lol. Even in my FFXI days I always said... The game is only as good as the people you play around with, and the people you know. Without a good linkshell, or a good FC, its an entirely different beast that may result in you being alone and quitting.

[AreciaRhi]

I've had the same friends for about a year now. Met through an old fc.