PSA

[Chadness]

Man up and grow some thicker skin - it's a necessity irl just as it is on the net.

Just FYI, telling someone with mental health issues to just "grow some thicker skin" is like telling someone with a broken leg to just "walk it off".

[Trixxy]

Just FYI, telling someone with mental health issues to just "grow some thicker skin" is like telling someone with a broken leg to just "walk it off".

Find me one person that hasn't at some point been whining about "mental health issues", expecting pitty and special treatment.

They're common, they're something everyone has to deal with and eventually overcome in order to grow up *mentally*.

Other than that buzzwords sure are a handy thing to fall back to when you can't be bothered to do so and resort to indulging within ever-so popular internet hugboxes instead.
As I've stated in my previous post, looking away simply won't do. So, in a way, yeah it may as well be their own fault for being unable to cope with a bit of toxicity on the internet and the overwhelming amount of people in this thread trying to defend said behaviour with such a weak argument aren't helping anyone, nor ever will.

It's a sad trend. Cowardice is encouraged and stating a bit of truth will immediatelly be met with scorn and equally toxic responses.

This thread is the living proof of that.

[TSLsmokey]

Find me one person that hasn't at some point been whining about "mental health issues", expecting pitty and special treatment.

They're common, they're something everyone has to deal with and eventually overcome in order to grow up *mentally*.

Just pointing this out there. I discovered back in middle school that I had a brain disorder and it ticked me off to no end getting the 'special treatment' when other issues were more prevalent that could've been dealt with. I never sought out special treatment, never whined about the disorder, and tried to work as best I could with it. There are likely many out there that have not whined about their disability or expected special treatment. You might not even know they have said disability due to them keeping quiet. If I got the point of your opening statement wrong, please forgive me as the way you worded it made it seem like an absolute.

[MihaelB]

Just FYI, telling someone with mental health issues to just "grow some thicker skin" is like telling someone with a broken leg to just "walk it off".

Except this person in your analogy with a broken leg tried to enter a running competition.

If you have a delicate sense of mind, why are you jumping into a cesspool of competitive negative human toxicity?

[HakuroDK]

I've noticed that topics like this always pit the apathetic against the empathetic in a very destructive way.

I think this topic should be locked before it causes further animosity.

[DamianFatale]

Man up and grow some thicker skin - it's a necessity irl just as it is on the net.
Jerks exist everywhere and in this day and age it's better to overcome your own low self-esteem instead of looking for a hugbox.

It's the harsher response but also the more honest one, white Knights won't always be there to protect you from harm.

That being said: XIV already has one of the lesser toxic communities.

Yes, you should be aware that there won't always be someone to support you, but telling people to just "man up" is like covering all the emotional responses in a blanket.. ifs not healthy, and honestly I find it a bit sexist. Be brave, and work on coping strategies. That's the advice I'd give instead.

[Maero]

That is absolutely wrong, and people take PVP way too seriously, hence why in other games i avoid it like a plague

[ErryK]

You seem to be confusing avatars with people. We are all gamers, and that puts us on the same "team" all the time - even when our avatars are on opposing sides.

No, it's not surprising that it happened in PvP- but if this is the "norm," that is NOT OK. And the sooner we can all acknowledge that, the better.

We might all be gamers, but we are also gamers driven towards a certain goal, and if you provoke someone, they will react. Don't tell me that that's not how people's emotions work, while I don't think people should be THAT passionate about a stupid death in PvP, I will not excuse it. I never said it was the norm either, I said it's to be expected in such a heated gameplay mode where there's always the chance someone is out to get you, even though the behavior is unwarranted as it is a game...

[Trixxy]

It's not about covering emotions within a blanket, it's about learning that these are things that are not worth an emotional response in the first place - any response whatsoever even.

The ability to not give a damn is powerful and if there's one thing I'd avocate learning then it's just that.

Looking away works, but it's not a long-term solution. Ranting only blows a small matter out of proportion and telling them that they hurt your feelings only gives them what they were after in the first place.

I can relate to the shitty feeling after being told off coldly but I'd never dare using the term "mental-health problems" as an excuse to not even try.
It may be more difficult for some than it is for others, but hell if it's not impossible.

[Mirili]

"The Say, Party, Yell, and Shout chat channels can be used during PvP matches. However, players can only see messages from members of their own team."