not new to tanking, but new to ffxiv.

[Donjo]

Maxing VIT is currently the best option. Both STR and VIT increase your damage, but by exactly the same amount, so there's not really a reason not to go VIT since it's damage + health rather than just damage. Your body gear will increase both for you but make sure to take Accessories which have VIT on them.

Regarding secondaries, the "Tanking Secondary" of Parry is currently considered to be extremely undesirable by the general tanking community because it's a RNG focused method of mitigation that doesn't help much when the most dangerous attacks to Tanks are typically either magical(which cannot be parried) or single huge hits(which you should never rely on a Parry to save you from). Basically, while it is a genuine increase in overall damage reduction it's not by enough to really affect too much. Damage Secondaries currently use a ranking of Crit Rate>Determination>Skill Speed. So if you want to be the most "efficient" then focus the damage secondaries but if you don't care then use whatever you wish because the number of situations where that kind of stat efficiency is truly necessary is blessedly low. Knowing how to fight fights is much more important, and few things will give you that knowledge more quickly than just jumping in!

[Ragnar_is_god]

wow amazing reply! sorry took so long to get back, been so busy spamming missions and all that in game that i forgot about the post. tyvm for the knowlage =)