same issue will occur then, till the day you learn that it isn't all about you or your gear etc. It's a team effort, as mentioned above try the party finder if you get frustrated via duty finder. Some people do not have the patience or time and I don't mean that in an offending way, therefore they are much happier to just get their clears via party finder.

However it has nothing to do with being elitist or hardcore especially if the new trial falls in neither of these categories, but a specific mindset when trying to clear new or more challenging content. Adding/requesting to add echo for your own personal satisfaction is not the way to go or how it should be. Sorry.