Well, while I agree that people shouldn't hope to find ~true love~ in the bonding thread, I'd also like to point out that dating people IRL is no safeguard against cheating/abuse/etc. There are nasty people IRL and in game (hey, we're all people).. And there are some really good liars out there.

Sorry to hear you're having trouble, but naming/shaming is against the ToS no matter what the reason. You could try contacting support with screenshots for in game or lodestone harassment, but they can do nothing about emails.