What can I do to stop this?

[Brian_]

^ this is what ppl have a problem with. You certainly are NOT displaying "live and let live" behaviors and you shouldn't kid yourself. You may not be "telling" ppl how to play the game, but you are "forcing" them to play the way you want them to i.e. without a tank, waiting for a tank, or re-queuing altogether. You're negatively impacting the party for personal gain. That is not "Live and Let live"

No, it's you who doesn't understand what that means. What it means is that I'll live my life, and you live yours. I can make my own judgements about when I want to leave a group and when you make that same judgement about leaving a group, I won't hold it against you. I'm free to do what I want and so are you. You quite literally do not know what that statement means.

What's happening here is the opposite of that mentality. It's a bunch of judgemental, vindictive, self-righteous pettiness and people telling others that if they don't do exactly what they want, they're wrong. It's a bunch of people applying their own subjective standards to what is acceptable behavior, what is selfish play, and what is okay according to their morals.

When I queue into a group and a DPS is doing 200 DPS and watching net flix on the side, my mentality is "you do what you will but don't fault me when I drop group." Your mentality suggests that I am obligated to carry the run. And, before you suggest that's a different situation, it's only different because you deem it so. These are all forms of selfishness. You are picking and choosing what to support and punish. I'm saying that you just let it be and allow things to resolve themselves through the exercising of individual rights -- rights that you are trying to take away from people.