Is it just me or is the people who don't want parsers being a bit....paranoid? Maybe not the best word but why do you assume you'll be attacked for your DPS numbers in every DF run just because they add an official parser? I am not trying to be rude either but it seems like baseless fear mongering that FFXIV will turn into hell because people will be tormenting people left right and center about DPS.

Like I really don't know if this community is THAT toxic (and people are just assuming this will happen). Not saying there aren't jerks who will be a jerk with parsers but honestly they were probably going to be jerks anyway even without an official parser. In the end you don't need a parser to be a jerk, but using a parser doesn't automatically make you a jerk either.

As for statics...well when you join a static to run the hardest content available at the time in the game you kinda know that you are signing up to have your play style critiqued along with DPS numbers if you are a DPS job. Working as a team to complete difficult content often requires members to talk about what they all can do better to help the team succeed. No one is perfect so obviously being a jerk towards someone when they aren't performing up to your personal standards is not cool but not every static is like that at all.

So if your static leader abusively attacks you for not doing that extra 100 DPS then you should find a new static that is like-minded. There are different kinds of statics. You gotta find one you mesh with. On the other hand if your static leader only mentioned you could be doing more DPS and didn't abuse you for it then they were just pointing out to you that there is room for improvement if possible. If you feel like you cannot do any more than you already are then just say so. What happens after that will show you if you are with like-minded people or not.

Giving up on or avoiding raiding because of parsers is just pointless in my opinion. You are mistaking the parser itself as being the jerk when it's really the players you encountered that are jerks in your eyes. Find like-minded players who you can raid with. It can be hard but its not impossible if you try. If you really wanna work for it you could also make your own static and be the leader to create the kind of static you want to see.