question how far is to far

[Nicodemus_Mercy]

Swimsuits and whatever males got are completely different. I work at a pool.

Then you clearly need to broaden your exposure to clothing styles. Speedo's are common as hell swimwear for men. Heck just google the Australian Men's Olympic Swim Team and you'll see. The problem here is you're using your own preconceived notions of what is and isn't appropriate for genders to wear to determine who should and shouldn't be allowed to wear what. Eorzeans do not necessarily share our world view of what constitutes acceptable fashion.