Why is DRK so squishy and how do I stop it?

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In Temple of Qarn on the 3 spider monsters and the blue ghost blob right before the Golem boss I dropped dead both times. Both times the healers said "I wasn't expecting the squish" despite using the -20% inc damage CD (Shadowskin?) and also the Parry Buff (Dark Dance), then after those went off I would use Bloodbath in addition to +healing received (convalescence?)

They did say they were in Cleric Stance both times...perhaps they just weren't prepared because those monsters hit harder than normal monsters?

However on the same pull after the boss we didn't die - so maybe they were just in cruise control mode and those are special monsters they were surprised by at first

First of all, DRK can't heal themselves. not in qarn. you MIGHT have bloodbath as a cross-class, sure. but thats not going to keep you alive. if that's your definition of "squish", then fine, DRK is "squishy". but simply put, your cooldowns as a DRK or PLD purely REDUCE damage. they dont REMOVE it, and they certainly dont RESTORE it. not even the famous healer tank warrior has that many restoring tools in qarn. they have bloodbath and inner beast. MAYBE second wind.

Secondly, if your healer is in cleric stance, they have 0 right to blame a wipe on "squish". period. they were actively reducing their own healing or not healing at all. if youre in cleric stance as a healer, youre doing damage. you cant cast cure at the same time as stone II. here's a newsflash. if your health is above 0% after 15-20 seconds (enough for your cooldowns to run their course) then youre not "squish". if you have the time to use your tools, they have enough time to use theirs.

Lately, I've been trying to level arcanist rather than tank. yknow. take a little break from the BS like this. get 2 classes up to 60 for the price of 1. maybe work on mentor. oh boy. let me tell you. im glad i chose arcanist and not archer. every other run, if not EVERY run, the tank will die. at least once. the healer wont be OoM, but they might be in cleric stance. but they wont be OoM. the tank never just evaporated. even when theyre pretty dumb and charge into a pull that realistically should kill them, the healer always has time to heal them. i've actively been watching tank HP bars. as a DPS. because if the healers mess up, i need to be real freaking quick on that swiftcast resurrect.

"squish" should reserved for vastly undergeared (hall of novice gear in brayflox, for example), or any tanks that still somehow swear that pure STR acc. are the way to go. no, im not kidding. they still exist. and i have to fight them for aggro in CT and VA. and its rediculous.