Stop being so hostile in the game

[Aldora]

If you actually took a look at some of what they said in the screenshot, you would've seen how they spoke French.

Again, it's funny how you guys get whatever you want and twist it..

Ow, i did look at the screenshot, which had 1 DPS mention “Courir” and the tank mentioning “Sale merde ”. But, that’s it. Other than that, i only see improper behaviour.

Let’s face is, based on the comments you made in that particular post and later posts, you do seem to have an issue with French players for some reason. Otherwise you wouldn’t be saying things like:

Enough with the excuses, it's no coincidence that the HUGE majority of bad/rude players are French. I got nothing against the French, and no one's talking about their ethnicity (you know, I'm caucasian as well), but their culture. They're prone to do those things and be like that online, end of the story. Either they start by cleaning their own mess or more people will isolate them because of themselves. Of course, I've met some great French players myself, but, you know, I tend to avoid them for a reason.

What way? I'm stating the fact everyone's been talking about. Don't make this about me, because it isn't if you've read at least a couple of pages in this same exact thread.

There are no facts that most of the bad or rude players are french. That’s just a fabrication based on the opinions of others. And you’re right, this is not about you but we do feel that you base your replies on the wrong kind of arguments.

Have you ever considered that the “us” you were referring to, are simply individuals who are judgemental towards the French? Our skills, attitude and willingness to cooperate with others to improve these said traits is what defines someone as a “good” player. Not where they are from or what language they speak.

If a player can only resort to insults or childish behaviour, then they are simply rude. Nothing more. You can either ignore them or report them, but don’t lower yourself to their level and try to counter with (passive) aggressive behaviour yourself (even though the situation sometimes demands it). It will only escalate the issue further.

There are no real winners in a fight.

P.S.: Editing on phones need to happen ASAP.

I had the mobile forum switch to the website version of the forum. That way you can edit still your post until they add the Edit Post functionality on the Mobile version of the Forum.

[Aldora]

a post about "stop being hostile" has degenerated into this lmao

Well, truth be told... I’m happy that we can have a discussion like this on the forum, because it means that this is an issue we are currently being confronted with. By posting about it in the General Discussion forum section, we can make these issues known and talk with one another about it.

Since this is a community related issue, only we (as part of the said community) can actually do something about it. That being said, we can’t solve things by simply pointing our fingers towards something or someone.

We can only solve it if we act upon them as part of a community. A healthy community is a community that can support its fellow members and work together in order to keep it healthy and active.

With the introduction of the Duty Finder, this has become an incredibly difficult task since the DF removed the “need” for social bonds to be formed in order to tackle content. The chance that you will meet up with the same people again is rather slim, which will give people the opportunity to behave like jerks and get away with it.

But, if you look closely, there are groups of people who come up with community run events, which attract the attention from the people around them. This is but a small thing that makes people group together and do things with each other, rather than jumping at each other's throats because they weren’t performing their class at their optimal performance.

We can’t fix someone else's attitude, but we can find friendly / like minded people to work with. Not against.

One way of doing that is to add content which will not be placed within the DF, but can still be fun to do with a group. For example the “treasure hunter dungeon” Maps they are planning to release in Patch 3.3 (which may reveal an entrance to a dungeon instead of a chest). Poppable NM’s. Or maybe a reintroduction of “Hamlet Defense” / “Beastmen camp invasions”.

[Tanathya]

All I said is that a ton of people here had the same theory, and you seemed to have taken it out on me for whatever reason. Also no, I'm far from being narrow minded. And yeah, it's not about numbers. Lol. In fact, none of what you said is relevant, maybe what I said isn't either, but I was talking from my experience, and my experience dictates that the majority of rude players have always been French, which doesn't mean that the majority of the French population is rude.

[Ultear_Milkovich]

You have a different experience than mine. This is normal and I respect this.

But you are saying that "all that I said is irrelevant" which seems to be a bit extreme in a discussion.

I gave actual facts, like speaking French =/= being French. How is that irrelevant, when France is only 25% of the French speaking world?

This is based on real things and that seems irrelevant to you, right.

But you, you just shared feelings based on nothing but your own experience, and biaised statements such has "the majority of rude players are French" (above) based on nothing, so im not sure that you are the right person to decide what is relevant or not.

Anyways, ive had enough.

[Ultear_Milkovich]

All I said is that a ton of people here had the same theory, and you seemed to have taken it out on me for whatever reason. Also no, I'm far from being narrow minded. And yeah, it's not about numbers. Lol. In fact, none of what you said is relevant, maybe what I said isn't either, but I was talking from my experience, and my experience dictates that the majority of rude players have always been French, which doesn't mean that the majority of the French population is rude.

Ive only met ONE rude person on the forums so far and that's you.

Then I could say that the majority of rude players have always been english.

Because yes, by your logic, if you speak english = you are english, because the rest (aka other countries speaking the same language) "is irrelevant."

See. It sounds stupid doesnt it?

[Tanathya]

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I also said that probably what I said is irrelevant as well. Let's stop taking only the part we're interested in discussing while ignoring the rest, shall we?

Yeah, based on my experienced it is, and I'd be lying if I didn't tell you that pretty much every FC I've been in I've always encountered a group of people that disliked them. Now, I do NOT dislike anyone based on their nationality, that'd be absurd, but these experiences aren't limited to me. Again, I'm part of a controversial community as well nationality-wise, and I try to avoid them at all costs. So I'm not biased, since I don't even have anything against the French, the Germans, the Italians, or the Americans. I can't be biased even if I wanted to; I hold nothing against any one of them.

Let me tell you though, that you implied that people whose only language is English are prone to be narrow minded, and not too smart. And that is something you did, while accusing me of doing the same even though I didn't.

I'm one of those people who try to speak to the others via whatever tool is at hand, and if I find a French/German/Japanese player who doesn't speak English, I'll do my best to communicate with them via the auto-translator. FFXI taught me that, and it's amazing to be able to play with people from around the world. You are very mistaken about me, as I pointed out more than just once.

So far, you've also been extremely rude and judgemental.

[Adire]

a post about "stop being hostile" has degenerated into this lmao

You must be new, welcome to the official forums :P

[Ultear_Milkovich]

Again, I'm part of a controversial community as well nationality-wise, and I try to avoid them at all costs.

"As well", which implies that French are a "controversial community" too?

Wait, since when are we a "controversial community", and what the hell is that? Did we kill somebody or...?

I'm French and i dont consider myself as being part of a "controversial community" , thanks God.

Should I?

Well you now look a bit scary to be honest. Not going to discuss this anymore, this is going worse and worse...

The controversial guy.

[Tanathya]

"As well", which implies that French are a "controversial community" too?

Wait, since when are we a "controversial community", and what the hell is that? Did we kill somebody or...?

I'm French and i dont consider myself as being part of a "controversial community" , thanks God.

Should I?

Well you now look a bit scary to be honest. Not going to discuss this anymore, this is going worse and worse...

The controversial guy.

If it wasn't, we wouldn't be having this, conversation? Breaking news, I didn't name the French in the first place.

And eh, I'm scary now. Look, you're extreme and very judgemental, as pointed above. You do to the others what you don't like to be done to you. So yeah, please, just stop discussing things.

Why does it seem like you're a 5 year old? And let me tell you, I never thought I'd use that card, but it honestly seems like it. I'm trying to have a calm conversation and you keep being extremely defensive. We could exchange points of view, learn from each other, but you're really, really rude and insulting. You can tell me I'm wrong, which I probably am in the bigger picture, and I'll learn from that, but you seem like you just got mad and started the name calling. Call me whatever you want, I'm going to try and ignore it because it's going nowhere.

There have been people who've told me I was wrong in this same thread, and I've at least enjoyed reading them. You, not so much.

[Ultear_Milkovich]

If it wasn't, we wouldn't be having this, conversation? Breaking news, I didn't name the French in the first place.

So... i'm controversial just because i refuse to blindly accept your statement about French people being controversial... am I right?

It is either you win, or i loose.