To me respect is something that is earned, not given freely to every hooligan that I run into in DF. Which you would have lost from me when you took the passive aggressive way out and just stopped dpsing instead of sucking it up and playing what you signed up for, simply because someone was saying stuff you didn't like you hindered the entire group. The word you're looking for is politeness. With all the daily homework SE gives level 60 players is it any surprise that people get annoyed when people go slow in instances, when they just want to get everything done as well as maybe level a new job to play.