Quote Originally Posted by Gemina View Post
Happened last night inside of Halatali, before even getting to Firemane. I immediately blamed myself and started apologizing to my group, especially since I explained to them that it was my first time there.

My nephew who was in the group with me (has a 60 WAR and 50 PLD) immediately said it was not my fault, and explained that the tank pulled a strong mob along with its adds while we were engaged. He stated we were doomed the moment he pulled that mob. If he was not there, all I would have saw was my failure as a healer, and I still do. I still feel like there was more I could've done. Anything other than dying!

I knew my biggest challenge as a healer would have nothing to do with game mechanics; it was always going to be getting past my own harsh criticism. I wanted to quit after that wipe. I was so upset with myself and my nephew had to calm me down. We did regroup, everyone comforted me, and we destroyed that dungeon on the second go.

I'll get better. I promise!
There will be plenty more times where the party wipes either due to healers not healing enough, tanks pulling too much for their ilvl, or dps not killing things quick enough. It's always SOMEONES fault but as long as you can re-group and move on without too much name calling you'll be just fine It sounds like the situation above the Tank simply pulled too much for a low level healer to handle which is on them, so I wouldn't worry about it. You also said you cleared the dungeon easily after that so seems like you know what you're doing for the most part! Keep hope alive