I for some reason can't see the raping of conquered women as a state sponsored activity, but the only officers we really interact with at any point in the story are Luvia, Nero, Rhaehrlhaer (Roegadyn guy), and Gaius...and we aren't exactly going into the specifics of their military policy abroad when we encounter them. I'm not trying to whitewash it, but it hasn't really been referenced all that much outside of 2.0. It might play into the gray nature of a lot of the cities to counteract the soldiers that Myahele quoted above.

And for that guy who was smitten by Tataru...this might just be me personally but I didn't read too much into it. He might be another one of those normal soldiers who just so happen to have a soft spot for cute things? I mean, that's how I am IRL. Kittens, tiny turtles, puppies, lalafells, etc are enough to make me go all :3