Join in progress should probably join a party in progress?

[pikster]

So last night, im on my DPS and I start getting my roulette's done. I got for leveling roulette, I have join in progress ticked because I like to live dangerously.

I got Tam Tara NM, nice and easy, but there was no healer either. So I got my wife to come and heal it for us, she selected Leveling roulette, all languages and in progress, que popped instantly for a new dungeon, not ours. The only way she could get into ours was queing Tam Tara directly, not as part of the roulette and selecting in progress.

Later that same night, we both DPS, 50 Roulette, Tam Tara HM, Tank is WaaaaaaaaaY too skilled for this dungeon and refuses to do anything asking to be kicked, we wait for him to drop so he can take his penalty (because if you do that its what you deserve). Healer is new to the dungeon, I say NP I'll tank it for us to get us through it, leave, select roulette in progress, only gives me a fresh dungeon, have to select Tam Tara Hm on its own to get in.

So why is this being so inconsistent? It let me in the first one in progress just fine when it had no healer, so why be a pain when the healer wants to come in? The guys have waited way longer than anyone else in the que to get a full party...