Why is so hard for newbies to learn how to raid?

[Jeykama]

Sooo what am I?
I am group 1/2?

Sad to say, you're still group 1. Even if you enjoy helping, you're still only one person, and one person does not a raid group make. I jump into learning groups all the time but my advice alone isn't going to get them a clear.
Unless I suppose your raid group regularly carries 1-2 people every week through locked content out of the goodness of their hearts. Who does that though?

As for the OP there is something to be said about being just super stubborn, especially as a new player with fewer social connections. I cleared Thordan EX 3rd week or so just hopping into PF learning groups nonstop and since then shadowed the path of a now-friend who struggled to get his Thordan EX clear.

He would just set up PFs day after day, sometimes they would fill, most of the times not. When they filled he would FL the people he liked and invite them to a Thordan-centric LS he made. I would join his groups sometimes and give people tips on phases whatever, and months later he finally cleared. He didn't really have FC support or anything either, just a lot of dedication and maybe spite. But now a lot of people know him and he has a raid group and such. Unfortunately the OP picked a pretty terrible time in the patch cycle to try to progress, hopefully they have better luck in 3.2.

[Werhusky]

Too long

I doubt I am the only one. My friends love to join for clears as well... Maybe we aren't the majority and also often work on double purpose ("Free law" if you want to call it like that after a clear 2 hrs later, Token, chance on mount etc) but we still a good amount of people and some of us on every server