If I was a GM I wouldn't let you know anything, or have any impact on another players life. Look at it from their perspective: You kicked someone out of your FC and now want to know about their personal life. Surely that seems a bit odd to you? It may come from a good place but the GMs have limitations.

I'd wager a bet the main issue is more your feelings of guilt rather than her wellbeing. Nothing in your thread stands out as actual concern rather than passing the buck.