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[Fevelle]

as healers DPSing is a norm

Show me where on the ToS is it called a norm. Show me where on the game it says explicitly that "healers DPSing are a norm". It's a fine mentality, but this one line of your post irks me.

It is a norm forced by the community, not by the devs.

So it IS NOT a norm, just a common agreement between a large part of the playerbase. As a healer who DPS every time I can, it REALLY bothers me when people try to force healer DPS to people who don't want to do it.